by Holly Hartman
As babies become toddlers they begin to notice they have choices. This can be challenging for caregivers, but we can also think of it as a chance to encourage independence and growth. Giving toddlers a chance to make a choice of their own helps foster thinking skills. It can be fun to watch as children show their personalities through their choices!
Remember to keep choices simple and limit the number of alternatives. Be sure you are going to be ok with their choice, whatever they decide. Also, try to avoid giving too many choices when you or they are tired, stressed, or in a hurry.
Since children learn best through play, we can find ways to give them fun experiences in decision making. Here are some easy examples of choices for toddlers:
Would you like to eat pears or bananas?
Do you want to wear the bear or the bunny pj’s?
Which way shall we go on our walk today?
Should we read one, two or three books before bedtime?
Would you rather put away the blocks or the puzzles?
Do you want to do it yourself or would you like help?
Toddlers are new at making choices, and just like us, they won’t always make the choice that is in their best interest, or be happy with the choice they’ve made. We can help by showing patience and understanding while also allowing them to experience the consequences of their choices, as long as those consequences aren’t harmful or dangerous.
Think about all the important decisions children will be faced with throughout their lives, and it’s clear that the ability to make good choices is a crucial life skill that children need to develop. What is a fun choice you can give your child today?